I love this partner to death, I really do, but they keep metagaming. It doesn’t always ruin threads but it makes me frustrated and then I lose my muse. Their character is always better at fighting, always knows what’s going on in mine’s head and/or special abilities before it’s even brought up physically or verbally. It’s happened so much that I’m not even sure they are doing it on purpose anymore.
I just don’t know what to do and am just frustrated with the whole thing.
This is basically an extension of the “downplayed tragic past, affects only when convenient” problem, but it’s cropped up enough to warrant this. You see…sometimes I just have to be baffled when your muse does this. They hardly, if at all, know my character.
It’s either A) Mentioned in an off-hand sort of way that makes me wonder how my character should react to this totally irrelevant piece of information inserted out of nowhere or B) pulled up to create an angsty thread, when again, there hasn’t been nearly enough time between the muses for it to come up.
It’s okay for your muse to have whatever kind of trauma in their past, but bringing it up out of the blue Sakamoto-style just turns me right off.
This happened on a chat based rp, where we had a chat room for regular rping, and one for 18+. On the 18+ one, people were talking about porn, and showing of some they drew. One person kept posting slash porn of this one ship, and one of the people (J) left the chat room. This one member (B) automatically assumes that she left because of the gay porn, and goes onto main thread and starts cussing her out. On the 18+ chat, she then goes on about how much she loves gay people and how horrible J was, even though she had never made any homophobic comments. For all B knew she just didn’t like that one pairing, or slash, or hell, maybe she wanted to close some tabs.
It was incredibly stupid, but no one called B out. I think it was because they didn’t want her to turn on them.
The character was schizophrenic but only “violent”. Congratulations, you’ve seen movies that make light of mental illness and have no idea the actual symptoms or how it works!
So several years back, myself and one of my roleplay partners decided to make up a group of characters that were purely meant to be silly fun and be a parody of certain things. Not much about the characters was meant to be taken seriously. Eventually, my partner started taking the characters a lot more seriously, giving them dark and dramatic plotlines for whatever reason, and at one point expressed the fact that she didn’t like a key trait of one of my characters. Okay, well, I’m an open-minded person, I respect the opinions of others. I like to get constructive criticism and advice. So, I asked her for her opinion on if there was anything I could do to improve the character and make them better. Her response? Nothing. Nothing I could do. The character was bad and there would be nothing I could do to change that, according to her, not even removing that trait completely could help.
She even added in a mocking “What’s the matter, gonna cry?” when it became obvious that this irritated me. Of course she was always the type to play it off as “It’s just a joke!” when confronted about things like that. That was years ago and even to this day, it pisses me off when I remember that.
Maybe I am alone in this, but it’s frustrating when you take weeks or months to find the right FC for your character and someone else takes it and uses for all their rps.
Even more when they had the guts the tell you they are great because they had never seen them before.
It’s always the same: It doesn’t matter how many opens I make for all my new followers or all my attempts to interact with them. There’s always that time where you feel like no one wants to talk to you because they’re too busy with their clique and you feel like dropping your character. Suddenly, out of the blue, everyone comes to you to beg for you to not leave, but what really makes me angry is the same excuse they all use: “I would LOVE to RP with your character BUT: I’m too busy, I’m intimidated by you, I don’t know how to interact to new followers, I’m out of ideas, I’m sleepy…”
The list goes on. The worst is that the people who often says that to me are lying, they are RPing on dash and perfectly fine with other RPers, which makes me even more pissed. It’s as if they have a problem with me.
Instead of showing fake interest on my character and creating half-assed excuses just tell me truth, tell me my character is not of your interest or you don’t like him/her. It would make me less angry.